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I only have one… I’m not quite sure how moms handle multiples. I see my friends that have had two back to back, and there’s a whole lot of stress going on. I finally feel like were at a good spot with our two year old - not sure if I want to add some more craziness to the mix yet. Good luck to Heather!

We have 2, and yes, I totally felt like I was cheating on our daughter with baby #2 almost through the first year of baby #2’s life.

I was 38 when I had my first baby, with several miscarriages beforehand. My husband and I knew we wanted at least two kids, so we tried probably earlier than if we’d had more time to have babies (i.e., if we’d been younger, we’d have waited longer for baby #2). And I had another miscarriage in between the two, giving birth to #2 at age 40.

It didn’t help that my work, HR, and healthcare coverage for baby #2 was a nightmare, or that my husband became unemployed more than once in that year. Stress City. Then at 18 months for baby #2, I was crying because I felt that while my baby liked me, he didn’t really love me. At just over 2 years, he was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum.

So yeah, not a normal baby #2 scenario. I was not happy for a while, and I had not expected that.

Yes, dealing with a baby the second time around was sooooo much easier and I felt more relaxed about cleanliness, routines, etc. However, there has been a lot of work done to help get our son to talk and interact “normally.”

In fact, four years after he was born, we are just now getting to the playing together stage, and I am relaxing more, even though we still have therapies and lots of strategy meetings for him.

And yes, they do hold hands and it melts my heart every time!

My husband and I are going to start trying for a second child next month (Our son will be 18mo) I’ve been very worried about ‘cheating’ on my son and wondering if everything will be ok. This video has made me feel much better, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one who worries about this sort of thing.

It’s good to hear about some others’ concerns with this dilemma. I guess it’s not so much a think we think of until beginning to contemplate the addition of a new family member for real. Still, most families deal with this quite well I think, despite the seemingly “cheating” nature of bringing a new baby into the world to a sibling. Most of use grew up with brothers and sisters without too much mental or emotional anguish long-term, so I feel that it’s something that can be adapted to quite naturally when handled gently!

Hii dear friends,me and my husband are living a happy life , i have tow daughters , whose are too cute but i dont know that i suppose to concive one more time or not ..please give me your suggestions

mayes
working mums