TheMommyBlog

What an interesting topic.  I think for my husband and I, what works best is just not opening the door to what could become an emotional affair or an emotional “one-night stand,” in the first place, but I’ve never really felt that our system works for everyone.  I would be pretty significantly upset if I felt that my husband were more emotionally attached to another woman than he is to me, but as far as other friendships and acquaintanceships go, I also feel that he needs other people just as I do and that, like Bec said, I’m his wife not his life.  It seems like a very grey area, maybe the sort of thing that is case by case?

Yes, an emotional affair is absolutely cheating! In some ways it is even worse than a sexual affair except for the lack of STD!  You would really need to get to know someone to have an emotional affair, and that takes a lot of time and dedication.  A physical affair on the other hand could be quick and impersonal, while no less hurtful, but with less time stolen from a spouse.  It would affect trust in the same way!

Wow- that’s a mixture of differing opinions! I think everyone’s got different arrangements going on with their spouses, and sure different moral standards, but the thing is that deep down every person works on the same emotional principles which means that if such a thing as an actual “emotional” affair took place and your partner came to know of it- some place inside them is going to feel (if they love you) a measure of hurt or some other perhaps suppressed emotion. This is something to think about if you really care about avoiding hurting your spouse more than anything else and think of them over yourself.

that is a hard one, I would say each situation is different but that’s where it could start from and develop into much more.