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Still no sound so…which opinion is yours?  Fortunately for me, I didn’t have any criers so I don’t know which way I would have gone.  I’m guessing that I wouldn’t have been able to listen to it and would have had to go in.

Mindy, I know I am a brand new mom and really don’t have enough experience to chime in here, but I wanted to THANK YOU. I have no plans of letting my baby cry it out alone in her crib and it makes me feel even more comfortable in my decision when I hear moms like you say the same thing.

I have never seen your blog before, but I came here after watching your momversation. Mindy, I completely agree with you here. I have a 6 month old son who at 4 months decided to stop sleeping through the night, and stop wanting to sleep in his crib. I let him cry one time and was so overwhelmed I have never done it again. Kudos to you!

I feel like children are pushed too hard to grow up too fast.
Hurry up - start feeding yourself!
Walk!
Sleep all alone in a dark room!
I guess if you can deal with hearing your kid cry themselves to sleep, go for it.
Makes me sad to think of all these babies crying themselves to sleep just because the parents “need more sleep” or “they need to learn how sometime.”
They are BABIES - helpless little babies that want you to comfort them.

Guess you can tell where I stand - hehe.

I feel the same way. And it aggravates me to no end that we kinda sorta have to throw a disclaimer out there about not CIO.  (Am trying so hard to own my parenting choices & not have others make me defend them!)

After seeing this Momversation & the one on your (very) extensive breastfeeding career, I may just be a reader of your blog for life. :)

Found your blog through momversation and was nodding during your segment. I agree that the thing learned is that “no one is coming.” I was stuck in bed with an illness and nothing made me feel so helpless as when my husband didn’t come when I called. I was stuck and alone. It was awful. And when my son was born I decided I didn’t want him to feel that way if I could avoid it.

I am closer to your camp when it comes to baby sleep and sleep training.  I wish there was a bit more support for mothers who need to do something to help their baby sleep more at night but who do not want to let the baby just scream all night.  Not every mom reads as many sleep books necessary to realize that the options are wider than just CIO or suck-it-up.  I hate that this episode was just that, a choice between those for CIO and those against. 

I completely agree with all of the comments here and with your philosophy about CIO.  But was do you do if your kid wakes as often as Heather’s Leta?  No one can manage that long-term without losing their mind.  Everyone and their cousin would be telling you just to put the kid down and let it scream all night.  People would cite Ferber especially if they have never read the book.  Others would tell you to just love your baby because they are only little once.  Meanwhile, you would be fantasizing about jumping out a window.  It’s not PPD, it’s sleep deprivation.  You call your pediatrician, and they tell you to let the baby scream or to just not nurse at night.  They tell you this because they don’t really know what to tell you.

Although I may not agree with you 100% of the CIO method, what I think is VERY frustrating is that women have to defend their decision about how to get their child to sleep. I think each mother in the discussion had the BEST intentions for their child and family and I think that at the end of the day is all that matters. I own Daycare and can say that the one thing I’ve learned in ten years is that NO method works for every child. That includes sleeping, breast feeding, potty training, getting to eat veggies, discipline, etc. Nothing I’ve learned or been told has worked for every child. I just wish we had an environment that was more supportive of parents rather than one where people with the best intentions and love for their children have to defend each little thing they do.

Found your blog from the momverstion and I totally agree with you.  Babies should be comforted when they cry, not left alone to “work it out”.  They will sleep through the night when they are able to.  I want my baby to know that I will be there for him when he needs me.